Recently I was asked if it was okay to hate someone. I found it to be a very interesting question only because I had never been asked that before. Thinking about it I guess it’s really not that crazy of a question. People everywhere struggle with hurts in their lives that come from actions of others. We all carry the pains and scars of our interactions with other human beings. Some healed, some not.
When dealing with pain we must remember two very important truths. One, God never intended or designed you to live a life full of hate and bitterness. And, two, people can only hurt you as much as you let them. The more you bring up a past hurt and dwell on it the more you will continue to live with those regrets which are really just a personal pity party.
It’s inevitable that we will experience these ill feelings toward another person at some point in our life. But it’s what we do with those hurts that shapes our character. We can both hold on to these hurts for the rest of our lives and experience the hate and bitterness it inevitably leads to or we can learn to forgive.
That’s why the Bible teaches us to forgive. It says “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (Colossians 3:13) Jesus modeled this type of forgiveness for us. He never asks us to do what he hasn’t already shown us how to do.
Forgiveness is the quickest way to get over your feelings of hate and bitterness. Lack of forgiveness is one of the biggest hang ups in peoples’ lives. If you want to move forward in your life learn to be a forgiver and not a hater. Become like Jesus and forgive others just like He forgives you.
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (Matthew 6:14-15)